When we get married, we are absolutely sure that we will finally be able to find “that one.” But sadly, the statistics show very different results: about one in four marriages ends in divorce. And while it is sometimes very difficult to admit that your “happily ever after” just isn’t working, you shouldn’t be upset, because there are so many good things that a divorce can bring into your life.
We discovered 5 reasons why leaving is better than staying in an unhealthy marriage.
You’ll Have A Better Chance To Meet “the Right One.”
When you are married, you unconsciously try to stay away from the opposite sex so as not to make your partner jealous. That way, you will miss out on many great opportunities and people to befriend.
That is not bad when you are happily married. But if you feel like your marriage is stifling, divorce can help pave the way for finding the right partner in the future.
After a failed marriage, you have a lot of experience that can open the door to fall in love again and find the right person to spend the rest of your life with.
In fact, some studies show that people who remarry are less likely to get divorced because this time you know yourself better and are sure of what you want in your partner.
You Can Devote Your Energy To Your Own Personal Growth
If you stay in an unhealthy marriage for too long, your emotional well-being will always be at stake. This numbing pain can feel like it’s started to go away.
Do you remember your old hobbies or things that used to give you pleasure long ago? Does your spouse support your decisions and your vision of the world? Are you enjoying your life right now? If your answers are “no,” it may be time to make some changes in your personal life.
It turns out that a bad marriage can prevent you from doing the things you want or getting the things you deserve. So after a divorce, you can finally stop putting all your energy into a relationship that no longer works and use it in other important areas of your life.
You’ll Feel Happier
When you leave a bad marriage, you can lose your spouse, but instead, you get happiness. Life is too short to waste on conflicting people and unhealthy relationships. And if you think your marriage just makes you dissatisfied and unhappy, it’s definitely time to go.
Sure, divorce can be a shock to you at first, but then you can turn this page and open a new chapter in your life that can be much more amazing than the last. In fact, some research shows that both men and women feel happier up to 5 years after their marriage ends because they feel happier with their lives.
Your Kids Will Be Happier Too
Many couples find that they are unhappy and still decide to stay married “because of the children.” But that’s a very bad idea. Your children may hear your sarcasm and arguments, and they may be constantly stressed by the strain of your unhappy marriage.
Even more than all of that, they can become confused about what a healthy relationship is and is not, which can lead to big problems in their future personal life.
So if you don’t want to ruin your child’s psychological state, you need to show them how to respect each other and find a compromise. And don’t forget the golden rule: a happy parent means a happy child.
Your Health Might Improve
Most people believe that marriage can improve their health, but in the case of a bad marriage, it doesn’t work at all. In contrast, an unhappy and conflict-ridden marriage may be worse for you in terms of health than being single or happily married.
Studies confirm that living in a hostile home can be as physically damaging as heavy drinking or chronic job stress. So if you have not broken up with your wife or husband who is not your “better half”, remember that you have a higher risk of heart disease, cancer, arthritis, diabetes, and a weaker immune system. Also, even small cuts and sores on the skin will heal 40% slower.
Have you ever been divorced? Do you have any tips on how to handle this? Feel free to share your personal experience with us below!