If you fall in love instantly without really knowing a person, if you can’t stop thinking about someone, if your mood completely depends on whether your love interest has called you today, you are subject to a harmful emotional dependence.
It is usually a characteristic of people who do not have enough love for themselves and feel the need to look for it outside. This turns into a vicious cycle of toxic relationships, but luckily, there is a way out.
Emotionally dependent people put their partners on a pedestal and build their lives around them. They try to completely control their partner or play the victim while enjoying their own suffering.
Psychotherapist Darlene Lancer writes that true love and emotional dependence are different things and it’s crucial to learn how to tell them apart.
We collect alarming signs that indicate the appearance of harmful effects on your health. Don’t fall into the trap of toxic relationships.
5. You Immediately Think That You Have Found The Love Of Your Life
There are people who are very caring and after the first date they come home with feelings of, “This is the perfect person I’ve been waiting for my whole life!”
Unfortunately, it often happens that this is not the case. After meeting someone who gives you butterflies, wait a while until they calm down to see how they feel.
If you find yourself in such a situation, take a break every few days to be alone and do something to distract you from thinking about this person.
4. You Idealize Your Partner Too Much
At the beginning of the relationship, it is important to listen more than talk, and the key is to listen carefully. If a person casually says, “I’m not the easiest person …”, then they are probably warning you about something they know about themselves that you don’t know yet.
If something is mentioned even in the most casual way, don’t ignore it.
There is no need to selflessly reassure people: “Everything is absurd! Let’s take care of it!” When someone issues “warnings” like that, it really means that they don’t think you are the right person for them and that they don’t want you around or that they’re ready to continue the relationship on their terms only.
These are not things that a person in love would be feeling or saying, so if you hear these phrases most of the time, it may be necessary to solve the problem or consider whether or not you need to be in that relationship.
3. You Neglect Friends To Please Your Partner
Don’t neglect your friends when starting a relationship. When you start dating someone, it is natural that you focus on that person and want to share everything with your friends.
But keep in mind that your friends want to spend more time with you and they don’t necessarily want to spend all their time listening to stories about the person you are dating.
Your friends may also have certain feelings about the person you are seeing, and those feelings are different from yours because their thoughts are not clouded by emotions.
Therefore, it is better to introduce your friends to your partner from the beginning. They may notice something that you didn’t notice and prevent you from entering a toxic relationship.
If your partner doesn’t want to meet up with their friends and relatives, this is a warning sign that they don’t feel the relationship is serious.
2. You Forget About Your Hobby
Don’t forget your favorite hobbies and activities. A new person should make your life more interesting and add to your life.
An enthusiastic and active person who is interested in many different things is very attractive as a couple. Don’t make your loved one the center of your universe.
It is important to understand that it is unfair to your partner if you are totally dependent on them for your happiness, well-being, and general mood.
1. You Turn A Blind Eye To Alarming Signals
Pay attention to any feelings, doubts, and suspicions you may have. If something about your partner’s behavior is bothering you, don’t hesitate to address the issue immediately.
Don’t expect your partner to change on his own. It should be enough to tell someone who values you once that that person starts working to improve the situation.
Do not feel the need to justify your partner’s actions against you because of your childhood traumas, your work situation or the problems that your family is experiencing.
You don’t have to be your partner’s savior. If you constantly find yourself playing the victim in your relationship, you need to find out why.
Have you ever experienced an unhealthy emotional dependency in your life? How did you manage to deal with it? Share with us in the comments below!