The people we value and hold close to maybe holding us back in life with their negativity and manipulation. In fact, a study has shown us that the people around us determine whether we succeed or fail. It couldn’t be more important to have friends to support and encourage us in our lives.
However, there are ways of dealing with these people that will help you prosper in life. We want to help you deal with various types of difficult people in your life with some essential tips for calling them and taking care of yourself.
Drama Queens
Drama queens are the type of people who draw you into their troubles and melodramas, asking for your help. The more you help them, the more you can begin to realize that their problems are endless and that it is simply their way of life.
To stop becoming an audience for your dramas, you simply need to set limits. This may mean being less available, meeting less often, or even expressing that you don’t want to help them right now.
By avoiding asking them how they are feeling and not rewarding their drama, you can build a healthier relationship with them. Sometimes the distance is usually necessary for your health.
People Who Never Appreciate Your Effort
It can happen that no matter how hard we work or how hard we try, we simply cannot please some people. It can be a partner, friend, or boss. When this continues to happen, it helps to ask yourself some important questions and make some changes in your attitude.
Start by asking yourself why you want to please them. If you discover that it is because of fear of rejection, and not because it is something you like, it is best to start saying no.
Learning to say will not help you say what you want and will take you out of a cycle of agreeing to do something that will ultimately be unappreciated.
“Naysayer”
This is the type of person who is always negative and criticizes you and your dreams. You probably feel that these people are not taking you seriously because they are always questioning your choices and abilities.
You can deal with them by preventing them from giving (unwanted) advice. You can tell them that you are not looking for their ideas, and when they do, you must respond to their objections and negativity.
This can be done by showing them that they are wrong and that you have investigated. You may even find that you need to eliminate them from your life if they become too toxic.
The Manipulator
These people are only interested in themselves and will use an imbalance of power to make sure they get what they want. This can be done in a number of ways, from making you feel guilty and doing something for them to threatening you in some way.
Therefore, they can be dangerous and harm the people around them. It is important to remember that you are not the problem, you are simply being unreasonable.
You can remind them of this by asking probing questions such as “Does that sound reasonable to you?” You may also find that you are put in trouble, but you can take your time saying “I’ll think about it.”
The People Who Think You Should Be Someone Else
It may be a parent, a close friend, or someone you consider a close friend, but whoever it is, you should ignore their opinions. They can make you feel inadequate and guilty for being honest with yourself, and lying to others about who you really are can be upsetting and exhausting.
Instead, let them decide if they want to accept you for who you are. You don’t have to please them by being someone you are not. That can even mean letting them go if they want to.
Have you ever met a very toxic person? What ways did you use to deal with them?
