We like to talk about equal rights and respect for the interests of others and, in theory, we are all fine. But what about in practice? Can we see dishonesty in real relationships at first glance?
We invite you to take a look at some situations that occur quite frequently. This may help you see personal relationships from a new perspective.
Unequal Spending Of Time And Money On Common Needs
Every day you go out of your way to go for groceries after work and prepare breakfast, lunch, and dinner because your partner is used to eating well?
Can you get another job because you can’t afford your lover’s whims? Is your salary not enough for 2? It is unfair!
When Only One Of You Benefits From Living Together
Your partner lives in your house and you share food expenses equally? Do any of you have multiple bottles in the bathroom bought specifically for you?
Do you cook and clean in shifts? It seems that everything is fine here. But it’s still unfair!
Illusory Financial Independence
Financial support is not offered in times of difficulty because everyone knows that money damages relationship. There is even a saying: “If you want to lose a friend, lend him money.” It is unfair!
You Have No One To Rely On
Are you sure you can’t afford to be sick because no one would take care of you? Do you think your partner will be fine without your care because they’re not your child?
Can’t you ask them to take care of your pet or the flowers while you’re away? It is unfair!
Face To Face With Stress
Have you stopped trying to talk to your partner about your feelings because you know there will be no compassion?
Don’t you ask for advice because you have no idea what other people’s lives are like?
Don’t feel support when you desperately need it? It is unfair!
Blaming For Not Being Able To Do “Typically” Male Or Female Work
You’re reproached for not being able to repair a leaking pipe in the kitchen? Are you ashamed that your pasta is not as delicious as your partner’s mothers?
You’re required to start earning “like a man” or be “a good housewife”? It’s unfair!
Negative Comparison
Do you have to listen to how wonderful her friend’s husband is? Do you know all about the talents of your friend’s wife?
Somehow, everyone forgot that you were perfect at the beginning of your relationship. It is unfair!
Refusal To Accept Responsibility
Aren’t your kids just as talented as your friends? Did the wallpaper in your room that you chose together somehow become “the result of your bad taste”?
Are you always to blame for everything that concerns both of you? It is unfair!
Own Interests Above All Else
You find that you’ve got too little space on the shelves, although you occupy less than half?
Have several of your canvases been thrown away because “now it’s easier to breathe”? Are not your needs the same as your partner’s? It is unfair!
