When a Reddit user asked others about the toxic phrases they heard from their parents, no one expected the topic to turn into such a big discussion. Unfortunately, parents sometimes cross the line and stop censoring what they say. This often brings misunderstandings and offenses that can affect the parent-child relationship in the future.
We are all for sensible parenting and we call on everyone to adopt sane methods when it comes to raising children. In the meantime, we’d like to share the phrases that Reddit users have heard from their parents that have left a deep scar on their hearts so far.
My sister’s best childhood friend lived with us for several years because her mother carried out exactly that threat. Her parents divorced and her father lived out of town. Her mother decided that she wanted to move and told the girl that her brother would move too, but that she was not welcome and could move in with her father.
My sister’s friend didn’t want to move to where her father lived, so she moved in with us and lived with us until she went to college 5 years later. © DeaddyRuxpin / Reddit
In my experience, divorced parents who say things like:
“Don’t talk about that to your [other parents]” “Tell your [other parents]” “Your [other parents] is trying to manipulate you.” “Do you see what [other parent] did? I’m not saying you should hate them, but doesn’t that mean they did? “
It really ruins the child’s head. If you are getting divorced and have children, find a way to work things out with your ex-spouse without involving your children more than necessary. © Loa_Ex_Machina / Reddit
My mom told me “well, at least you’re pretty” with a super condescending voice and a lot of pity on her face. Dude … it made me feel bad. It still does sometimes. © Mcburgerdeys2 / Reddit
My mother always made nasty comments about my appearance, as if no one loved me or was my friend. I think she’s right about that. © angelhiyori / Reddit
Constantly comparing yourself to your older siblings and treating you extremely differently. It makes you feel inferior to them, and no matter how hard you try or do, it will never be enough. © mo95z / Reddit
My dad nicknamed me “Rock” because of my extreme stupidity (despite being an A-grade student in the Gifted and Talented program). He encouraged my older brothers to call me that. They did it with joy, often in front of other people. It hurt all the time. I’m still mad about it. © PaxNao / Reddit
What other toxic phrases do you think a parent might say to a child?