Jeff Haden, one of the most influential and popular people on LinkedIn and the author of nearly 30 books on business and communication, explained how some people can easily win everyone’s trust and create a positive image of themselves.
Creative Side invites you to discover what these nine characteristics are that make a person very charming.
How To Be More Charming Person
9. They Are Not Afraid To Lose
Lovely people don’t try to win at all. Rather, their goal is to give more without expecting anything in return. It is not difficult for them to admit their mistakes, failures, or talk about their weaknesses. And it is something that not everyone can do.
They can say openly, “I’m jealous of you” or “I can’t do this, please teach me,” because they know that people appreciate honesty and real emotions.
8. They Show They’re Sincerely Glad To Meet You
Maintaining eye contact is really important in a conversation, and people who have charisma know this for sure. They smile when you smile. They frown or nod when you do.
They don’t try to repeat everything after you. They focus on what you are saying and listen to you carefully, paying attention to all your emotions and words.
Such feedback helps to find common ground with anyone and to gain the trust of your interlocutor.
7. They Look For Mutual Understanding
Unconsciously, most people look for contradictions and disagreements, which can lead to a dispute and not a conversation. Charming and charismatic people always seek common ground with everyone.
Therefore, try to find something in common with your interlocutor. This helps start an interesting conversation and get positive emotions.
6. They Use The Power Of Touching
A touch is a powerful tool that helps people better understand emotions. In an experiment, scientists tried to express 12 emotions by touching their interlocutors without words. It was found that in 50-83% of cases these emotions were expressed correctly.
So when you want to congratulate someone, think about how to do better. Shaking hands or patting someone on the shoulder depends on the situation. This will help demonstrate the sincerity of your words, express the correct emotions, and gain the confidence of your interlocutor.
5. They’re Good At Using Facial Expressions And Gestures
Likable people express their emotions incredibly well and accurately. They can turn even the most boring story into a truly fascinating conversation.
By gesticulating and making faces (when appropriate), they express the humor of their story. And it helps to really arouse the interest of their interlocutor.
4. They Are Not Afraid To Look Silly
Maybe ice skating or Twister is not their strong point, but they are not afraid of being awkward.
Oddly, people respect them even more for that.
When you are ready to show your weaknesses and you are not afraid of looking silly, people do not laugh at you. They laugh with you. Because everyone understands that all of this is fine.
3. They Are Good At Asking Questions
Lovely people can easily make you talk about yourself. They don’t hesitate to ask questions and speak openly about themselves. These people really want to know what you are thinking, and that makes them trustworthy.
As soon as you discover something about a particular person, ask more questions and say something similar about yourself. This will show that you have something in common that can become an interesting topic for conversation.
2. They Always Remember Names
Charismatic people always remember names and other little things very accurately. The fact that someone says your name when they only know each other for a short time or when they only know each other makes you feel more important in the conversation.
Call the person by name and remember the names of your friends, relatives, or pets. That person will only think positively of you.
1. They Listen More And Talk Less
Most people cannot hear. Everyone wants to share their own news. It is also a nice feeling when you are telling a story and watching everyone listen to you with attention and emotional reaction to your words.
Lovely people listen and love to listen more than talk. This helps them learn more interesting things about a person and find something in common.